"Men's Strange Behaviour" - Not that strange at all
1. Women want men that are polite and don't treat them like crap. Someone who is themselves, their true selves. When guys put on the other person act it's because they don't want you to see their nasty side or child behavour tutu...
I'm generally confused by the term "tutu", but we'll ignore it for now. I'm assuming the "they" in the above sentence is men. It's quite funny actually, the majority of men (not all of you out there :P) Have a tendancy to act like an asshole when dealing with women. They believe that women prefer an asshole to a guy who is most likely nice and loving. (Ladies, there are some that are generally assholes. As long as they aren't ever an ass to you, I don't give a damn). If a guy is acting nice, be suspicious as with all guys, but don't assume he's immediately a drug dealer or freak because he pulls out a chair.
2. Women don't mind if you leer at a girl just as long as you don't pick up their number when our heads are turned. You see its the terms (see-see no touch).
WRONG! Some women don't mind. Like all people, some of us are bothered by different things. Many girls won't care if you take a fleeting look at someone wo is noticeably attractive, but we WILL be pissed if we're sitting next to you and you're staring at someone we have no hopes of competing with. Even if we do stand a decent chance, leering at any girl (note: "leer" to stare intensley at) will make even the most confident of girls uncomfortable.
3. A possesive man + you = unhappy relationship. Women don't fall in this trap. Once he feels he has a hold of you he may never let you go... first it will start with "Baby, I love you" then to "We're married and you can't leave the house, wherever you go I'll go." When a man does this, it means he really loves you and does not know how to show it. Showing it is okay men, but to capture us like "birds" is another thing.
I have a partial agreeability with this. Being posessive is NOT ok. Being protective is. Here's the difference: "where are you going? who are you with? when will you be back?" versus "where are you going, in case something happens?". Being posessive and determining who your lady can see and who she can't is an issue which needs to be dealt with. Being protective and keeping track of some information lest something happen to her is different, she'll outwardly harass you for it, but inside she'll be happy because you don't want anything to happen to her.
*An exception and how to deal with it*
If she's seeing someone you don't want her to see, for any reason, DON'T whine and complain and shoot the other person down. Sit down with her and tell her why you feel this way, and how you would feel better. This can work with ex boyfriends, co-workers that are a little too friendly, and even people that you don't really know well (if it's a dinner, suggest going with her.). Always be caring during these talks, or she will resent YOU instead of the person you're worried about.
As an aside, Marriage is NOT a form of posessive behaviour, and possessiveness does NOT mean he loves you. It means that he loves the IDEA of you, and will do whatever it takes to keep you in his little world.
4. When a man gives a women shit for sleeping around, it's there own insecurity below the belt. Come on, its the 2000's and besides its fun! What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
This is sickening. NO MATTER WHAT YEAR IT IS, IT IS NOT OK TO CHEAT!
No matter what you tell yourself to sleep at night, it's WRONG. Here's why: When you're in a relationship, you build trust, desire, understanding, companionship, and possibly love. There are very strong feelings involved. When you cheat, you not only break this man's connections to YOU, but you make him wary of EVERY other girl in his life. By sleeping with someone else, you tell him that he's not good enough for you, that you don't appreciate him, and that you need someone else to be happy. Of COURSE he'll feel insecure! You've basically just kicked him repeatedly in the balls.
I want to punch whomever wrote this. "and besides it's fun"? You enjoy breaking the trust of people? hurting them? doing what you want at someone else's expense?. "What's good for the goose is good for the gander"? It's a true statement, but how in fucking hell is cheating good for anyone? You act like a child and get what you want, then have a temper tantrum about the 2000's? This makes me so sick.
5. He has a temper... well it's more like a baby throwing a tantrum. When he acts like this, again it's INSECURITY, that's the main word for a man. When they don't know how to act they react. This is their coping strategy. What to do? let him be the baby and walk away. If he hits, leave and never look back.
This author clearly doesn't understand men (not saying I fully do, just expressing that I at least have grasped the handle on understanding you guys...where this person is still looking for it...or not at all, evidently.) Insecurity is NOT the word for a man, it's actually synonymous in my head with the word woman. Ironic.
If a man spends enough energy to actually get mad (unless he's an immature twit, I'm basing my statements on MEN, not boys) there's a reason for it. Either you've prodded him to fury (quite possible as a woman) or there's something genuinely bothering him, and you should park your ass and listen. Men aren't like women, they don't fly into tantrums. They do quite the opposite and go emotionally cold for a while as they think of a solution for their problems. It is NOT insecurity, he's generally unhappy.
As his girlfriend/friend/wife/lover, you need to sit down, listen to him, pat him on the back, and understand him. Support him and be happy that he's trusting you enough (you cheating idiots won't understand this) to express his problems, and realize that he's being strong, not "insecure", "weak", or "a pussy".
If he hits you, leave.
6. When we get our period please don't go into some weird fit; your not the one staring at it every month so deal with it. All we ask is for some compassion, love and tenderness for our hard time :D
I don't see anything fundamentally wrong with this, so I'll put an aside. Women, don't use it as an excuse to be a bitch. Get a grip on yourself and learn that the people around you have done nothing to deserve your unholy wrath. Being a bitch is a choice, it just feels easier around that time of the month.
On a note regarding to sex and the period, make period time "him time". Let him turn on the game, or house, or the news (hell, even the weather channel or porn if it works), and give him some nice loving attention..you know where. A beer is always a nice touch.
7. A Women wants it to be acknowleged that she is alive. Some men like to treat women as though they are toys. You see, if you men treat us like toys we get angry and who knows maybe you'll be a puppet on a string! Watch out! TREAT US LIKE THE GODDESSES WE ARE !!!
Some people have seen too many Venus commercials. I'm in general agreement, although some of you 'women' out there are faaaar from being goddess-like (not in appearance, in heart).
I will say this: If he's treating you like a toy, don't take the time to make him your "puppet". You'll be doing the exact same thing, and playing mind games. Grow-up, move on.
8. When a women says no... NO MEANS NO! No explanation needed.
GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT....
Applies to sex, NOT to conversations, arguments, walking the dog, etc.
9. When a man doesn't call it can mean two things
1. he is not into you
2. this is a fact some men aren't phone people they rather be near your sweet face
You decide on that one.
WRONG. If he is the "sweet face" type of guy, and if he likes you, he'll CONTACT YOU to meet up. don't hang on a string for some guy who doesn't really like you.
**Contact doesn't have to be phone. It can be email, text, facebook, carrier pigeon, but he WILL contact you.
10. A Man is a man when he can grow up and face his problems. If he can't he is being a little boy....
A man is a man when he can love, support, appreciate, and trust you. Some men have issues dealing with their problems. If your man is like this, YOU need to support HIM while he goes through the learning stages of this one.
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